Beloved, I was just wondering, when you flick water in his face in the shower, does he wait it out with a lopsided grin like I did? Does he laugh? Does he get you back? Ah, I doubt that – You never did take it as well as you give. Can you pick him up… View more
Coming up on the one year mark of my separation, I’m wanting to process everything that happened and be done; that’s why I’m here, blogging for the first time in… well it’s better that I don’t check haha. My marriage died slowly; both me and DeerHeart fought for it, performing CPR while the flatline screamed…. View more
And why you should stop asking that. I’m transgender. I’ve got a confused/disorganised attachment style, which tells you a lot if you’re into that stuff, and I was groomed and kept as a much older man’s toy for a bit over five years in my late teens. The second someone learns this about me, the… View more
My sister and I buy our card wallets and other pouches from That’s Ferntastic, a one-person small business that closed a few years ago. I could rave about Fern, her products, and her amazing customer service for hours, but that’s actually not what I came here to talk about. For the last couple of years,… View more
Here’s something I’m working on in therapy – I want to know if anyone can relate. I feel uncomfortable in front of a camera. More specifically, I feel obligated to feel uncomfortable in front of a camera, as if liking my own image or the attention would be some moral failing. I began pushing back… View more
At the risk of not making sense to anyone else, please enjoy this random revelation I had on my way home from therapy. No, not the day I picked up the pigeon, that was a different session. During therapy, my therapist mentioned how far I’ve come this year. I started seeing her in January (2024)… View more
Why I don’t contact people I haven’t seen for a while. Logically, being transgender should have no bearing on my friendships. Like yeah, it’s probably annoying that I changed my pronouns a couple of times and I have a new name for people to remember, but overall I’m the same person. In reality though, I’ve… View more
It should go without saying, but: My experiences with my mental health are unique to me and I’m not a medical professional. Take whatever is useful here, and discard the rest. About a month ago, I went back into therapy. It’s awful timing, because there are a lot of external pressures on me and my… View more
I found bergamot shower steamers at the bookshop and knew they’d be perfect for prosperity spells. I had the perfect person in mind too. This spell format can be used for other goals as well, such as wishing peace upon someone, connecting to a long-distance love, sending healing, or to empower yourself. Simply swap out… View more
You’ll need: You can leave it at that, or you can add charms. Symbols of confidence and personal growth include: Start by cleansing and charging your regents. It’s okay to do this on a different day if you are time poor, but you want to amplify the natural energies of your raw materials as much… View more
