Here’s something I’m working on in therapy – I want to know if anyone can relate. I feel uncomfortable in front of a camera. More specifically, I feel obligated to feel uncomfortable in front of a camera, as if liking my own image or the attention would be some moral failing. I began pushing back… View more
At the risk of not making sense to anyone else, please enjoy this random revelation I had on my way home from therapy. No, not the day I picked up the pigeon, that was a different session. During therapy, my therapist mentioned how far I’ve come this year. I started seeing her in January (2024)… View more
It should go without saying, but: My experiences with my mental health are unique to me and I’m not a medical professional. Take whatever is useful here, and discard the rest. About a month ago, I went back into therapy. It’s awful timing, because there are a lot of external pressures on me and my… View more
Marriage is weird. Even though we know humans grow and change, there’s still this idea that we’re freezing our relationships in time. We sign a contract wherein some clauses are explicit and some are implied. We know our partners – and if change happens, which it inevitably will, we become suspicious. Honestly, the suspicion makes… View more
Dealing with self-hate, internalised bias and negative self-talk. Trigger warning: self-harm and suicidal ideation. I wrote this in the midst of a mental-health spiral. I am in a bad place. I have not filtered this piece to protect anyone’s feelings. I don’t want advice. I don’t know where else to go to let this out,… View more
Sometimes this is asked in good faith, other times it’s played like a type of “gotcha!” Either way, let’s get into it. First, it’s important to note that biological sex is a spectrum, not a binary. There’s a range for what is considered normal for a female or male body, and there are also intersex… View more
Before I started transitioning, before I even came out, I asked my husband “Would you still love me if I was a man?” and you know, I kinda expected a simple yes. I’m pansexual. I’m not attracted to everyone, but any gender and body-part combination has the potential to get a big green tick from… View more
Something I hear all the time in the non-binary community is that society sees us as a “third gender” when really non-binary is an umbrella that covers many genders – all that fall outside the binary. There are a lot of nuances between these genders. You can’t for a moment think that agender, xenogender, and… View more
A response to RUOK? Day, Australia. R U OK? Day encourages people to reach out and check up on each other. The core of this idea is good, despite how much Aussies pay out on it, but alone, asking your mates if they’re all right isn’t enough. Particularly if they’re not okay. Now, I’ve got… View more
I’ve recently come out as non-binary (or enby, I like both terms) and it should be a cause for celebration. Transitioning, or as I like to say, “making my packaging match the product inside,” ought to be joyful. And it is – until others get involved. Don’t get me wrong, I want them involved. I want… View more
