I thought a Beltane jar would be a lovely, peaceful, easy way to mark this sabbat. Hades! Witch jars are great year-round, I’ll pop in a recipe for my northern mates too. Create these to display on your altar, desk, or bedside table, to shake, meditate with or just admire, and then when the season… View more
Late last year I decided, fuck it, I’m not celebrating the sabbats with my children this year. No sand ceremonies or fancy bread day, no gifts and feasting, no egg hunts, no trick or treating or making of haunted houses. The reasons are here. Today’s blog is a check in about that, and a testimony… View more
My word of the year is Altruism, but perhaps it should have been forgiveness. I’ll separate those thoughts into a blog post so as not to bog down this entry, but suffice it to say this Eostre, I’m blending the concepts of forgiveness and altruism with Spring’s themes of rebirth and fertility. If you’re following… View more
Marriage is weird. Even though we know humans grow and change, there’s still this idea that we’re freezing our relationships in time. We sign a contract wherein some clauses are explicit and some are implied. We know our partners – and if change happens, which it inevitably will, we become suspicious. Honestly, the suspicion makes… View more
The other day a mate said he saw me in a video and didn’t recognise me right away. He thought “Who’s this guy?” and then realised that my T is doing its work. Hearing that felt amazing, but I kept it to myself. The changes in my body fascinate me. Sometimes they scare me. I… View more
I know we shouldn’t count our chickens before they hatch or whatever, but the fact that Imbolc is on the horizon and I haven’t had a serious depressive episode this winter makes me smile. Yeah, okay, August is usually painful and it still could be. And yes, the first half of this year was emotionally… View more
A couple of people have asked me recently what my goals are for my medical transition and if they’re the same as when I came out in 2021 (they’re not). Because it’s good for me to check in with myself, I thought I’d blog about it. The most common question (or fear – from some… View more
I’m going to go ahead and assume you have a working knowledge of winter solstice traditions and history, so I can jump in the middle of the river but still make sense. Reach out if you need help with any of this though. I know we all hate the cooking blogs where the blogger talks… View more
Dealing with self-hate, internalised bias and negative self-talk. Trigger warning: self-harm and suicidal ideation. I wrote this in the midst of a mental-health spiral. I am in a bad place. I have not filtered this piece to protect anyone’s feelings. I don’t want advice. I don’t know where else to go to let this out,… View more
I know everyone gets sick of me talking about how much I love my doctor, but I love my doctor. He always asks how my current book is going. Which it’s not. Not really. At first that wasn’t my fault. I was just getting into the swing of the new school year when we started… View more
