A couple of people have asked me recently what my goals are for my medical transition and if they’re the same as when I came out in 2021 (they’re not). Because it’s good for me to check in with myself, I thought I’d blog about it. The most common question (or fear – from some… View more
Dealing with self-hate, internalised bias and negative self-talk. Trigger warning: self-harm and suicidal ideation. I wrote this in the midst of a mental-health spiral. I am in a bad place. I have not filtered this piece to protect anyone’s feelings. I don’t want advice. I don’t know where else to go to let this out,… View more
The evolution of language. Language is a funny thing. Most of the time we aim to get the message across in as few words as possible, the goal being to communicate effectively. Language also evolves. Every word was made up at some point, and new words are being made all the time, particularly as new… View more
Before I started transitioning, before I even came out, I asked my husband “Would you still love me if I was a man?” and you know, I kinda expected a simple yes. I’m pansexual. I’m not attracted to everyone, but any gender and body-part combination has the potential to get a big green tick from… View more
I need to get something off my chest. Something other than these damned annoying boobs – they’re staying unfortunately. We’re going to Canada. We haven’t been home since 2018. It should be joyful, right? Sadly, I’m more scared than excited. I love these people. I want to feel consumed by exhilaration and envision all the… View more
It’s age-old advice, right? Just be yourself and your people will find you. Don’t pretend to be someone else, it’s not sustainable and your friends will fall in love with someone who doesn’t exist. Don’t worry about labels, just be yourself. Never mind that sometimes labels help people find themselves. But, how does this advice… View more
Something I hear all the time in the non-binary community is that society sees us as a “third gender” when really non-binary is an umbrella that covers many genders – all that fall outside the binary. There are a lot of nuances between these genders. You can’t for a moment think that agender, xenogender, and… View more
